...On Days Off Together.

I'm thinking about this topic because it was raining here and all I wanted to do was wear my sweats, eat some comfort food and snuggle with my husband. 

I just wanted it to be our day off together and for nothing to be on the agenda but to be together.

How to spend our days off together was one of our first challenges in marriage.  We didn't realize that the other person could have a totally different perspective on how to spend their day off.  We dated for 2 years, went to school together, worked together, and spent a ton of time together; you would think that how we spend days off wouldn't change much once we got married...

Oooooh but it did.

There were days when one of us just needed to relax.  We had a hard week and we don't want to plan any fun activity or even get a ton of things done, we just want to exist and enjoy life as still as it can be.

There are some days when one of us wants to take advantage of a day off.  We want to go explore, do something active or heck, we just want to get all of our errands done because we couldn't get anything done during the week.  

We had a hard time with this before we realized how much communicating these needs were.  Because days off from work are necessary in so many different ways.  Days off are important to our well being and they should be spent in a way that rejuvenates us for the upcoming week.  It was like learning how to spend our vacation time together, we just needed to be on the same page and we needed to learn how to cater to each others' needs and not be caught up in our own.

It really helps to talk about what our plans are for our days off together.  Even if those plans mean snuggling on the couch eating popcorn in our sweats all day.  It may sometimes mean a compromise of a relaxing morning that leads to an active afternoon.  It may even mean some time apart so we can spend quality time with friends.  Whatever it is, it's really good to know beforehand.

Funny thing is, over a year later, we tend to be in this phase of extreme business.  A phase where every single day off is spent traveling somewhere or doing something that doesn't allow us to make our own plans.  We both long for a day off together with nothing on the agenda.  Being busy means we get to do a lot of fun things, but it also means that we miss out on a lot of times of simply existing together.

Some days I just want to snuggle.

This is day 24 of the series "31 Days on becoming a new wife."  I hope you'll journey with me as I reflect on my first year as a Mrs!  Click on the button to see a list of the rest of the posts. 

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