...On Conflict.

FYI:  This picture was not during a fight, I just thought it would be kinda funny...no?

Fighting.

Ugh.

The things that aren't fun in any relationship.

We're not gonna lie, we've done our share of fighting, or arguing, or whatever you want to call it.  When you have opposite love languages, opposite ways to refuel, and pretty much opposite personalities in every test we've ever taken, it's bound to happen (but hey, opposites attract, right?).

We've had to learn how to argue, or how to disagree, because I definitely think there is a wrong way.

And we're definitely not pros yet.  But someday, I hope to be, because, you know, we have 'till death do us part' to figure this whole thing out...

One thing that has really helped us as we learn to be husband and wife, learn to love each other, and learn to humble ourselves, has been learning about each other as much as we can.  And not just learning by experience, but learning by others who know more.  We have been blessed to have had access to a lot of personality tests that have taught us how the other can be ticked off or shown love.  These tests don't put our spouse in a box, but they teach us little things that we should be aware of.  They also teach us about ourselves as we process different things.  It's a lot easier to understand others when you truly understand who you are.

And in the end, we take the advice of (so many) older couples that said 'Don't go to bed angry' and 'Be the first to say you're sorry'.  Ok, so that second one is a lot harder than it sounds, but we're working on it.

I love my husband and I chose to marry him, so shouldn't I try my best to see the best in him?  Doesn't that just make sense? 

This year has been a lot of learning and growing and I couldn't have chosen a better man to do it with.

Hopefully, one day, when we're not in this "newlywed" stage of life, we'll have this whole resolving conflict thing down, so that our kids can see us resolve conflict without hurtful words and with humble minds.  Showing them love through our imperfections is something I want to do.

Because we are far from perfection and we always will be.

I'm just keepin' it real around here...

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And if you're interested, here are some of the tests we like:

Myers Briggs
Enneagram
DISC
Love Languages

(Surprisingly, we haven't done the Strength Finders yet, but we hope to do that one soon!)

And please feel free to contact me with any questions!

This is day 29 of the series "31 Days on becoming a new wife."  I hope you'll journey with me as I reflect on my first year as a Mrs!  Click on the button to see a list of the rest of the posts.

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